A mentor is a professional advisor who agrees to provide expertise to “mentees” or “protégés” in order to help them build and succeed in their career, develop their skill set and experience, and build their networks. As a law student, a mentor can provide a more in-depth exposure to the FBA and guiding you towards the right career decisions as well as life after law school.
Here are some tips for finding and making the most of a mentor, based on what’s worked for me and many of the successful professionals I know:
- Seek a mentor in your existing network. If you’re new to this concept, seek mentoring from someone you know already. You might approach a former boss, professor, friend of the family, or local community leader whose career you admire. Professional associations, even if you’ve only attended one meeting, are a great place to find a mentor—many organizations will even set you up with a mentor as part of their services. Alumni of your college or university are a great place to look as well. Some schools have formal programs and others encourage students to find mentors in their alumni databases—check with your career services office for the proper protocol. And, as you saw in the previous tip, sometimes a mentoring relationship can be developed with someone you greatly admire, simply by contacting that person.
- Start small. “Never ask, ‘Will you be my mentor?’” advise Eric Henderson and Heike Currie of Management Leadership for Tomorrow (www.ML4T.org), a nonprofit organization that runs programs to increase the presence of minorities in fast track entry-level jobs and major graduate business schools. “This unfocused request puts the person you ask in an awkward position. Although he or she is not likely to give you a flat, ‘No,’ it is very likely that you will have closed off a potentially meaningful conversation by positioning yourself as someone who simply wants a favor. Instead, ask an experienced person a focused and informed question about something you need to learn about your career. This will begin a dialogue that can grow into a mentoring relationship.” Mentoring can start with a simple chat over coffee, where you discuss just one issue or ask for general advice. You don’t have to set up weekly or monthly meetings right from the start; ease into your relationship.
- Be specific about the kind of help you need. When someone agrees to be your mentor, tell that person exactly where you need help—determining what career path to pursue after law school, learning how to be an attorney, becoming a more confident negotiator, whatever. The more specific you are about your needs, the more specific a mentor can be with his or her advice.
- “Meet” any way you can. In today’s super-busy world, it may be hard to have regular, face-to-face meetings with a mentor. Or, you may want to develop a mentoring relationship with someone who lives far away. This is absolutely fine. You can have a productive mentoring relationship over the phone or with email interactions. With ever-changing technology, you can even talk for free through your computer with a program like Skype.
- Ask your mentor to make you accountable. It’s a great idea to find a mentor who is willing to follow up with you about your goals. When my mentors give me ideas or networking connections, we set a deadline for me to report back on my results. This also means that you should always be prepared when you meet with your mentor: have specific questions or situations ready to discuss—it’s totally appropriate to bring a list of items you’d like to discuss.
