Throughout the book, Ms. Travis points out that because of their particular type of training, lawyers are in a very distinct and separate class from most other people. Lawyers are taught to think and act in a way that is more logical and analytical, and the skills they utilize as attorneys are often the very traits that can cause their personal relationships to suffer. Unless, of course, they happen to be married to other attorneys.
Ms. Travis argues that it is the lawyer/lawyer relationship that is most likely to succeed, apparently because there tends to be a mutual understanding between attorney spouses about the driving forces that cause them to respond to each other in typical lawyer-like fashions. They are therefore better equipped to negotiate marital differences of opinion and to appreciate a lawyer's demanding work schedule.
For those readers who are not attorneys themselves, however, Should You Marry a Lawyer? provides real solutions to the problems encountered in the lawyer/non-lawyer relationship. The book is filled with true stories from a variety of couples who have experienced communication breakdowns and misunderstandings, much of which are results of the lawyer's inability to participate and interact with the non-lawyer in a manner that is non-adversarial.
In Should You Marry a Lawyer?, Ms. Travis seeks to convey to the non-lawyer spouse a certain enlightened understanding about the lawyer persona. In other words, lawyers possess certain characteristics that may be very desirable traits to have for practicing law but are much less useful for developing and maintaining intimacy, such as being argumentative and assertive, as well as rigid and controlling. Attorneys also tend to be ambitious and are often consumed by their work, which means that they spend an inordinate amount of time away from home, either at the office or traveling.
For those individuals who are contemplating tying the knot with a lawyer, Ms. Travis provides a series of questions for the couple to answer which are designed to help them better prepare for what the future holds. Question #25 on the list can prove to be particularly illuminating for couples, as it asks, "What do you expect from me as your future spouse?"
The book is an easy and interesting read, with opportunities throughout for reflection and discussion between couples. In fact, Ms. Travis sets out actual assignments to work on so that the couple can gain a clearer perspective about each other's goals for the relationship.
Ms. Travis also offers practical suggestions to the non-lawyer for managing real-life situations, such as how to deal with arguments, how to handle anger, and how to communicate effectively, in her words, "in a way that appeals to a lawyer's rational, logical nature." Each of the six chapters is filled with very specific lessons that are well worth underscoring by the reader, as they are the author's recommended strategies for dealing with many of the different problems that will be encountered by couples.
Should You Marry a Lawyer? is a must-have handbook for the lawyer/non-lawyer couple, as it provides them with clear and concrete solutions for achieving balance in their lives. Ultimately, Ms. Travis answers the question, "Should you marry a lawyer?" with a resounding "Yes," with one caveat: read this book and take its suggestions to heart.
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